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Those emotions are anti-survival now
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by Hazel Burke, Unknown News
July 14, 2007
The urgent world situation does have one pleasant side effect:
I do not think that any of us can any longer
afford to indulge in the luxury of getting angry or
annoyed at
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neighbors, landlords, the world, etc.
Those emotions are anti-survival now. Contra-indicated. And not fun, either.
In my experience with close neighbors, annoying
behaviors most often bother me when I am actively
hating or strongly disliking a person. Then
whatever they do that isn't 100% to my liking is a
reminder of their terribleness -- and how much I
loathe them.
Humans have stinky feet. They tell bad jokes. They
are ignorant, bigoted, lazy and selfish. Their asses
smell, and they have bad breath. They lie, they
deceive, and they cheat. They love treachery, revenge
and payback.
Humans are soggy sacks of bacteria, fungi, viruses
and strange, smelly fluids; literally, sacks of shit!
But each (As Tom Robbins informs us...) is the
product of a billion years of evolution, being
descended from the baddest badass survivors born of
badass badasses who survived. They make terrible
enemies, great allies and excellent playmates.
I now use a mind trick to get by in close quarters. I
try to think of what advantage that annoying person
is to me in my life. And about trying to love them,
or at least like them as "people". I try to think
about their good qualities, their skills, things that
are admirable about them -- and I think about how my
behaviors can annoy others (my shit stinks too...)
Once a person is an object of love, or of friendship,
or simple tolerance, the noise they make as they live
ceases to be starkly annoying. In fact, it becomes
white noise. Or it is just data that informs. If it
stops then I worry!
Instead of having emotions, use logic: acquire
information, plan, and act without emotion to
safeguard your interests.
If your situation is untenable, leave.
If it is doable, then begin each day counting
blessings that it isn't all fucked up -- and for some
of us, there is no situation that we cannot make
worse if we try hard enough. And there is no situation good
enough that we can ever be satisfied... unless we
work at it, one day at a time.
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Humans have stinky feet. They tell bad jokes.
They are ignorant, bigoted, lazy and selfish. Their asses smell, and they have bad breath.
They lie, they deceive, and they cheat. They love treachery, revenge and payback.
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