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Helen & Harry Highwater's cranky weblog of news and opinion.
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"News that's not known, or not known enough." Helen & Harry Highwater's cranky weblog of news and opinion. |
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If you care and can feel, and see too much of the evil in the reality we live through, too soon, too close it changes you forever. I knew this was true even when I was 6 years old. I just didn't have the words to express it than like I do now. It felt as if abuse had made a change within me, a message I did not want to send out, advertising the damaged goods
Seems my feelings about abuse and its reality back then had a prophetic ring. The truth can seem weird or threatening to those out of touch or unfamiliar with certain realities some of us face. The mark was a reality for me. I felt it as if it was a physical scar, a bleeding wound that never stopped bleeding. In the '80s my feelings would have been seen as a symptom instead of a fact, because abuse left no visible wounds. Back in my youth it was an invisible injury. It was so easy to blame the victims back than, to keep them quiet. To tell them it is their fault they can't endure it, and harden their hearts. And it's all in their heads. Or even worse, the "get over it". The underlying message of that says, your symptoms make me uncomfortable by revealing things I'd prefer to pretend never happen to good people in my just world fantasy. Sociopaths do not get PTSD. They can't get it because they are incapable of feeling fear, or anxiety, or becoming attached to anyone. Sociopathy is not a "learned behavior," or environmentally caused behavior. The cerebral cortex in sociopaths' brains works differently than in non-sociopaths. Sociopaths will deny real reality and assert their own "reality," until their victims have nervous breakdowns from all the lies, games, and mind-fucking. It is impossible to coerce anyone to stop feeling anxiety or fear. You can bully them into hiding it or denying it, but you cannot coerce people into NOT feeling it. Sociopaths are born, not made. And when non-sociopaths are in contact with sociopaths, that situation creates victims with PTSD. It has not yet reached the hearts and minds of the public that work trauma is a gross violation of human rights. Maybe the effects of everyday stress in today's culture may be so severe that they add up to chronic trauma, for everyone but the sociopaths. Invisible trauma effects, but always there. Does anxiety gnaw at you from different directions while you try to rest alone, in the dark? How often? Something to think about ... Ironically, specific use of vengeance against a specific perpetrator of a crime by a victim does not make a victim into a bloodthirsty sociopath. But killing innocent people DOES create PTSD in non-sociopaths. And this fact goes contrary to popular beliefs about crime and victims that are just stupid, like the vampire myth that claims PTSD or child abuse "creates" sociopaths. Many popular myths blame the victims. It gets irritating dealing with these popular and asinine myths again and again. Tim Field, author of Bully Online, gets it:
And killing off the sociopaths dominating a group does not have to create more of the same order every time. People can learn to create boundaries Yet people are already calling us with the diagnosis of trauma as "dangerous", accusing survivors of malingering, saying trauma costs too much to treat. LINK (Scroll down to Trauma is "Easy?") LINK LINK LINK Ironic the things I already knew, deep inside, about abuse effects upon people and how it effects the world. They are being "discovered" now. There is a scary side to such physical validation of prior traumatization. Which is, what will this information be used to do to US In the end this all boils down to a war between two kinds of essence, perpetrators and survivors. It's not just humans that are facing this serious situation Animals face it too. Animals go to war. Animals can thank the people who rescue them from abusers. Female ducks are evolving bodily defenses to stop gang rape. Male ducks don't have much empathy for female ducks if they almost drown them while raping them. Animals DO kill themselves. Like people do. Maybe suicide is universal, because the brutality of existence itself has made life unbearable for some animals too? LINK LINK LINK Animal modeling of PTSD symptoms. People inducing the effects in animals, and it looks like when people gets PTSD. Coinkidink? The species, the identities and upbringing of these sociopaths, does not matter really. The real point here is: Can you empathize, do you care? Will you stand up for others, will you act upon the desire to protect the living beings in this world from those who abuse them? Or not? Scientific evidence strongly suggests that to maintain emotional and physical health we have to know how to relate to each other in a caring way. The undeniable evidence is that anger, anxiety and depression, on one hand, and love and intimacy on the other, affect health and recovery from illness. This findings have been elaborated by Dean Ornish MD in Love and Survival: The Scientific Basis for the Healing Power of Intimacy (1997). He writes:
Society is slowly coming out of the haze of denial about systemic abuse by this civilizations' hierarchical domination and exploitation system. More people are finally seeing sociopaths for what they are. I hope the survivors win this war, because I could not live in a world without love. And apparently, even the animals agree with me on this one. © by the author.
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